Mary Darling Montero, LCSW: Connect to Your Spirituality, Without Going Anywhere

This month at BounceBack we’ve been talking about getaways and taking a vacation from the mess of a broken relationship — taking a break to focus on family, friends, rest, relaxation and, most importantly, you. The mess might still be there when you return, but you’ll likely find that you feel more grounded and therefore better able to cope.

The idea of a spiritual getaway isn’t new, and doesn’t always require that you go anywhere (not physically, at least). Unlike Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the bestselling book Eat, Pray, Love few of us are in a position to embark on a year-long international journey of self-discovery. What we can do, though, is begin to build spiritual getaways into our daily lives. If practiced consistently, this can lead to synergy of mind, body and spirit — something many would agree represents optimum health.

Many spiritual practices are rooted in religion, but most would argue that one can be spiritual without being religious. There are countless definitions of spirituality, and how one defines spirituality is unique to his or her experience and world view. Based on my experiences with clients, a simple definition of spirituality involves honing our ability to be aware and to find meaning and purpose in our experiences. It’s a sense of connectedness to our experiences, rather than a feeling that at the end of the day we are essentially alone and that our lives are without meaning.

During a crisis such as a relationship breakup or divorce, incorporating ideas that can be described as spiritual (compassion for self and others, healing from wounds — some of which are older than the relationship — and finding personal meaning in the pain) can ease the process of getting back on your feet and being stronger for the experience.

For some guidance on how we can incorporate spiritual “getaways” into our lives, I’ve called in Rebecca Cofiño, a certified yoga instructor for over a decade who studied with a master yogi in India. Cofiño is the founder of mamaguru, where she not only writes about spirituality and offers spirituality workshops, but also shares ideas about parenting, vegetarian cooking, wellness and more.

Spirituality During Times of Crisis — Such as a Breakup or Divorce

Cofiño suggests that a personal crisis offers an ideal opportunity to nurture your spirituality, because in the process of working through the crisis you can “get to know yourself better, cultivate meaningful happiness deep within yourself and form a strong spiritual identity,” all of which can lead to “contentedness with life and a sense of inner peace.”

Cofiño also points out that if you have the time and means to travel alone and spend some time connecting with your spirit, being single is an ideal time to do it. “Spirituality is essentially an individual experience,” she says. Going on a “radical spiritual adventure may not be possible at any other time in your life.”

Going on a Spiritual Getaway Without Actually Going Anywhere
A spiritual getaway doesn’t require travel, however. Cofiño suggests that a weekend retreat in your own home can provide similar benefits. (If you have children and aren’t able to do this, read below for other suggestions). The point of such a getaway explains Cofiño, is to “pretend that you’re actually physically gone. Take a break from the social scene and spend some alone time. Our lives are spent in a constant state of expression these days with texting, tweeting and more. Socializing directs your attention outward. The purpose of a spiritual getaway is to focus your attention inward. Being quiet enables you to hear your own inner voice which can get lost in the constant chatter of life.”

“Prepare Friday night by de-cluttering, buying healthy groceries and going to bed early,” says Cofiño. “Turn off your phone, computer and television for the weekend. Fill your weekend with quiet reflection. Match your activities to earth’s rhythms by waking with the sun and resting when it sets. Spend time journaling and preparing wholesome meals to nourish yourself. Go outside and connect with nature by hiking or swimming in a lake or ocean. Meditate everyday. This can be as simple as sitting quietly and focusing on your breath.

“Simple as it may seem, this spiritual getaway can completely rejuvenate your spirit. The quiet time will help shift your perspective and remind you about what is important. You will probably feel more like yourself by the end of your getaway. You can carry the mindfulness you gained into your daily life by prioritizing healthful habits, connecting with nature and taking time to nourish your spirit everyday.”

Spirituality and Parenting
“The teaching-learning dynamic between parent and child can be a very powerful tool for spiritual growth,” says Cofiño. “Your child is a Zen master of living in the present moment. When you play with your child, allow yourself to completely enter their world, rather than just sitting on the sidelines.

“Also, as a parent you can teach your child how to remain centered when frustrating situations occur. Modeling balanced emotions and clear intentions rather than reacting with anger to your child’s emotional outbursts is an enormous challenge. Building that state of equanimity will give you tremendous spiritual growth and will give your child a wonderful example to emulate.

“In addition to incorporating parenthood into your spirituality, it is important to find small ways to nourish yourself as an individual. The easiest way to do this is to wake up 15 minutes earlier than your family. Sit in quiet meditation and connect with your breath. Set an intention to which you can refer back as the day progresses. Living a deliberate life, rather than a reactionary one, is paramount to spirituality.”

“Spiritual growth can happen in the blink of an eye or in the space of a breath, so whatever time you can devote to it will garner benefits,” says Cofiño. “If you have a weekend for a spiritual getaway, take it. If you have ten minutes before breakfast, take it. Just focus on living a mindful, deliberate life. Remember that each human being gets the same 24 hours each day; devote some of that time to nourishing your spirit.”

BounceBack helps people find happiness after heartbreak from a relationship breakup or divorce. It’s a place to tell your story, get community support and advice from experts. Heartbreaks happen to everyone. And everyone has the potential to bounce back and move forward to a life full of strength, confidence, and happiness.

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Lanvin & H&M Partner For Fall

NEW YORK — Lanvin will be the next high-fashion house to become a partner of fast-fashion retailer H&M.

The joint collection, featuring womenswear and menswear, will go on sale Nov. 20 in North America and then to the rest of the world three days later.

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New York Daily News Makes Epic Photo FAIL

When Thomas Magill miraculously survived after falling 40 stories from a New York high-rise, media outlets everywhere were captivated by the 22-year-old actor’s suicide attempt thwarted only by a well-placed Dodge Charger and good old fashion luck. But today, when the New York Daily News ran a story about Magill, they chose perhaps the most inappropriate picture of all time (lifted from Magill’s Facebook profile) to represent the actor. Peter Pan? Really? We’re not sure if this was an accident or they were just having a little fun at Magill’s expense, but even though Magill is reported to be in stable condition, this still may have been a little extreme. (Via Reddit)

Louis C.K. Goes On A Drunken Twitter Rant (PICTURES)

Last night while flying to Los Angeles, comedian Louis C.K. ended up committing T.U.I., or “Tweeting while intoxicated.” After a few too many rum and Cokes, the “Louie” star let loose on Twitter about Sarah Palin, The Beatles, and more for his 180,000 followers.

The rant was pretty offensive and contained plenty of slurs, but we have to say Palin took the most blows. Later, C.K. even tweeted a confusing and offensive rant directly to her by using her Twitter handle. See a few of his tweets below, and read the rest for yourself on C.K.’s Twitter page.



Interview: Michelle Rodriguez on ‘Machete’

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Michelle Rodriguez has literally fought her way to stardom, starting with Karyn Kusama’s boxing drama Girlfight. Rodriguez came away with an Independent Spirit Award for Best Debut Performance and the start of a unique career as one of Hollywood’s action heroines. In the past ten years, Rodriguez has driven with The Fast and the Furious, fought zombies in Resident Evil, rode the waves in Blue Crush, got Lost, and piloted one of James Cameron’s futuristic ships in Avatar.

Rodriguez’s latest role as Luz in Robert Rodriguez’s Machete takes the action star to a whole new level of kicking ass. Deep in the heart of Texas, Luz runs a taco truck that feeds the local day laborers home-style food, comfort, and hope for a better future — as well information about jobs, how to get papers, or even cash in a pinch. Luz’s alter ego is Shé, a revolutionary, gun-totin’ mama who runs an underground network that helps immigrants once they’ve crossed the border into the Texas. Luz ends up being a much-needed friend to Machete (Danny Trejo), a former Federales who escaped a Mexican drug lord by the skin of his teeth and keeps finding himself in increasingly messy situations on the Texan side of the border. He’s got a machete, but Luz has got, well, a lot more than a taco truck on her side.

Rodriguez took some time out of her busy day to talk to Cinematical about self-stereotyping, playing with politics in Machete, and the outer space kind of aliens she’ll be fighting in Battle: Los Angeles.

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William Bradley: Mad Men Makes the All-Time Television Pantheon and Unspools Another Fine Episode

As if it weren’t clear before, Mad Men has entered not only the current cultural pantheon but also the all-time television pantheon. As always, there be spoilers ahead.

Before we get to Mad Men‘s third straight Emmy Awards win as the best dramatic series and what that means, as well as the details of another fine episode in “Waldorf Stories” and what that may mean, let’s get one thing out of the way right now. We finally know how Don Draper got hired at Sterling Cooper. He didn’t!

How perfectly Don Draperesque is that? But before we return to that, and the rest of the latest episode, let’s look at Mad Men in the pantheon.

Incidentally, you can see all my Mad Men pieces, from this year and last year, here in The Mad Men File.

Mad Men won the award for Best Dramatic Series for the third year in a row at Sunday night’s Emmy Awards at the Nokia Theater in downtown Los Angeles.

Mad Men won its third straight Emmy Award as Best Dramatic Series on television on Sunday night. It wasn’t a surprise, but with a lot of upsets during the ceremony, it wasn’t impossible that it would lose. But even though none of the six nominated actors won, the show won again for the third year in a row for best writing — with creator Matthew Weiner again, and Erin Levy earning the prize for the season 3 finale — as well as for best casting and hairstyling. And Lost simply wasn’t good enough in its final season to knock off Mad Men, especially with Lost‘s rather insipid finale.

So Mad Men, the series that HBO infamously passed on and which finally debuted on a channel, AMC, once reserved for repeated showings of Commando and other such fairly recent, er, semi-classics, won its very deserved third straight award as the finest show on television. Which puts Mad Men one season away — this one, as it happens — from the all-time record of four straight wins.

Only three shows in the history of television drama have won more best series Emmys than Mad Men.

Let’s look at the company Mad Men is in.

The Defenders, described by some as the most socially conscious show in history, won three in a row from 1962 to 1964. Mad Men already paid homage to the show, depicting the controversy around a Defenders episode in which the father and son lawyer team, played by E.G. Marshal and Robert Reed, defended a woman who got an abortion.

The gritty-yet-humanistic police drama Hill Street Blues won four in a row from 1981 to 1984.

The slick but telling L.A. Law won four in a row from 1989 to 1992.

And The West Wing won four in a row from 2000 to 2003.

What about The Sopranos? Well, the show on which Weiner got his big break won twice, for 2004 and 2006, with Lost and 24 winning the award in between. I was a big fan of The Sopranos, but Mad Men is better.

How badly should we feel for the six actors — Jon Hamm, January Jones, Christina Hendricks, Elisabeth Moss, John Slattery and Robert Morse — who garnered Emmy nominations but didn’t come away with the awards? Probably not too bad. Four of them just made the cover of Rolling Stone. (You can guess which four. Sorry “Roger Sterling,” maybe Esquire awaits.) And they are fashion icons the world over now. Well, maybe not Robert Morse. Though his socks ought to be.

As good as Bryan Cranston is in Breaking Bad, I’d love to see Jon Hamm finally end up with an Emmy as best actor. His Don Draper is the center of Mad Men, and he shows a great range, including in the latest episode, “Waldorf Stories.” I expected Julianna Margulies to win best actress for The Good Wife, which is actually a very fine CBS show I’ve seen a few times. Margulies is outstanding in it. (Though Kyra Sedgwick pulled off an upset for a show I haven’t seen.) I halfway expected Christina Hendricks, or perhaps Elisabeth Moss, to win as best supporting actress. But Hendricks, though very potent in her appearances, probably didn’t get enough screen time last season, and the winner in that category, Good Wife‘s Archie Panjabi, is constantly in the middle of the action on that show.

So, “Waldorf Stories.” What more have we learned?

The essential milieu of Mad Men is not all that admirable.

For one thing, that Matthew Weiner is a cheeky fellow. The latest episode, which first aired the night of the Emmy Awards, turns on, yes, an awards show. In which Don Draper is up for a big award. Which he wins.

It’s the Clio Awards (sort of), the premier awards in advertising. In 1965, the Clios are staged as a long boozy affair at the Waldorf Astoria. The Clios I was at some years ago were in Miami, and it was decidedly not an afternoon event.

Before they get to the awards show, in a sequence highlighting the show’s more comedic focus, Don and Peggy Olsen interview an aspiring copywriter recommended by Roger Sterling. Or, more accurately, by Mrs. Roger Sterling, the beauteous young Jane Siegel Sterling, Don’s former secretary, whose affair with Roger caused the sale of the original Sterling Cooper to the Brit conglomerate that set all the professional changes into motion.

The young and very diminutive Danny Siegel — he’s Jane’s cousin, and he’s played by a fellow that I could swear was one of the would-be super-villain “Nerds of Doom” on Buffy the Vampire Slayer — has a hilarious portfolio consisting of other people’s work that he “admires” and precisely one, very hackneyed, idea, executed ad (so to speak) infinitum. Fill-in-the-blank product is “the cure for the common fill-in-the-blank.”

Afterwards, Peggy says she’s relieved to meet someone worse than she is. “Don’t get used to it,” Don tells her. Nice.

Don’s in high gear as we open, since he’s the toast of the industry and up for a major award — actually the Clios give out a great many awards — and continues as he tells Roger that he admires the fine prank of sending “the kid” to him. As if Roger’s very smart young wife is going to let her cousin go unhired.

All this makes Roger, who is hilariously working on his memoirs but not recalling all that much, think back to how he met Don in the first place. Don, as we’ve previously established, was a fur salesman, who also did the company’s ads. (We see the young, and still future, Betty Draper in one of the ads.) Roger has stopped in the shop to buy a “getting-to-know-you” fur for Joan Holloway, with whom he is embarking on what becomes a long affair.

Don is not at all the smooth, urbane character we’re used to. He’s more like a big, gawky, very eager Labrador puppy. Roger wants no part of him and is irritated when he finds that Don has placed his advertising portfolio in the box with Joan’s fur, a junior varsity move.

I think what we often forget about Don Draper, who is really Dick Whitman, is that while he successfully stole the identity of his dead Army lieutenant in the Korean War, and the Purple Heart that goes along with it (which Dick himself actually rates, oddly enough), he didn’t actually know much of anything even though he returned from Korea with the status of a decorated former Army officer. He certainly didn’t know his dead lieutenant’s profession, that of engineer. That’s a gig that’s hard to BS your way through. So he sold used cars, and went to night school, and worked his way to selling furs and making some local ads on the side.

In the present day, with Peggy getting no recognition for helping conceive the Glo-Coat ad that’s up for the award, Don, Roger, Joan, and Pete Campbell head to the Waldorf Astoria for the awards. In thinking about his memoirs, Roger has decided that recruiting Don is one of his big accomplishments. Unfortunately, they don’t give awards for that.

Following his big Clio win, Don Draper evidently came up with some better lines than these in the latest episode. Too bad about that blackout drinking.

Don, secretly holding hands with Joan, who is also secretly holding hands with Roger, under the table, wins, naturally. After planting a serious kiss on Joan, he collects his award. Which he, also naturally, promptly misplaces as he launches into what can alternately be described as a two-day bacchanal, bender, or spree. After a hilariously misbegotten pitch session.

Before discussing that, let’s deal with Don and Joan. In a sense, they are the most obvious potential couple on the show. They’re both great-looking, both very smart, both worldly, both very good in the advertising business, with complementary skills. In fact, in today’s world, the two of them could easily start their own ad agency.

But we’ve never seen even a hint of them hooking up, aside from the very meaningful looks they exchanged toward the end of last season’s “Guy Walks Into An Advertising Agency” episode. Could they become a major item? Perhaps they already have been. In any event, we get no more of that the rest of this episode.

Instead we get a boozily celebratory Don striking out again at the Waldorf bar that night with Dr. Faye, the fetchingly manipulative consulting psychologist for the agency. But only after scoring on a pitch back at the agency.

Cereal company execs running late had canceled on the Sterling Cooper Draper Pryce crew prior to the Clios, but showed up at the agency after the awards show. Feeling invincible after his Clio win, after Roger does a victory lap around the conference room, Don decides to go ahead with the pitch even though he’s several sheets to the wind.

We’ve seen a pensive, heartfelt Don Draper pitch before. We’ve seen an eerily-in-command Don Draper pitch before. We’ve even seen a desperate Don Draper pitch before, with nothing going into the meeting. In the pilot episode, no less. But we’ve never seen an overconfident, drunk Don Draper pitch before.

It actually goes rather well, which is not surprising, since Don has presence, nobody minds that he’s been drinking since he’s just won a big award, and he’s well-prepared. Just one problem. The client thinks the idea is too intellectual.

So Don has to improvise. Desperately, hilariously, throwing half-baked one-liners off the top of his head. Finally he scores with… “Life, the cure for the common breakfast.” Hey, that sounds familiar. Actually, it works fine. (In real life, slogans are overrated anyway. Just make sure it’s not bad.)

Roger Sterling discusses the philosophy of drinking.

With this late afternoon victory, Don is back to the bar at the Waldorf. After Dr. Faye, who’s warming to Don but doesn’t want to succumb to his drunken version, sends him on his way, Don finds that his blooming celebrity status is catnip to another Clio winner, a smart brunette. Have we noticed yet that Don does best with brunettes?

Presumably Don doesn’t get slapped around by her, as we saw with his call girl pal in the season opener. Somewhere over the thoroughly lubricated next 36 hours, he picks up at least one other woman, the blonde he wakes up with only to field a call from an enraged blonde, the one named Betty.

He’s forgotten all about picking up the kids! Oops. So much for domestic Don. At weekend’s end, yet another woman arrives at Don’s man cave in the Village. This time it’s Peggy, who’s been rather put upon by Don’s snubs and demands that she work with the agency’s arrogant new jackass art director. She’s not there to continue his revelries, but to tell him his successful pitch with the cereal execs was actually from Jane Siegel Sterling’s nerdy cousin.

Naturally, he has to be hired now. (Of course, he always had to be hired, or Roger’s life would have become markedly less pleasant.)

The saving grace at the start of the new week for Don, aside from having recovered some of his mojo with women? Roger has fetched his Clio trophy from the Waldorf bar. All he wants is some thanks for having hired Don at the old Sterling Coo in the first place.

He doesn’t exactly get it, though he appears to think he does. Nor should he, because as we see in a flashback, Roger never actually hired Don.

Friendly, and very persistent, young Labrador pup Don had cajoled Roger into having morning drinks with him, leading to not much more than functional blackout conviviality for the older man. The next workday, there is Don greeting him in the Sterling Cooper lobby. After Navy vet Roger asks Don to leave him alone, Don informs him that Roger hired him. “You said, ‘Welcome aboard.'”

As the elevator door closes on Don and Roger, with Don making his first ascent to Sterling Cooper, Don has the greatest little grin. He pulled it off! Sadly, the closing song is not “Anchors Aweigh.”

In our B and C stories …

Peggy, left out of the Clio Awards, is further affronted by Don with his instruction to work with the new art director, having to hole up in a hotel room with him to brainstorm the Vick’s consumer cough products line. This character, who is very excited about having made a TV ad for President Lyndon Johnson’s campaign that wasn’t actually used, is one of the biggest male jerks on the show, and that’s a stiff competition. Too stiff for him, as it turns out, with Peggy calling his bluff about her supposed prudery by insisting they work in the buff together. With hotshot, who turns out to have no ideas, getting an errant stiffy, to complete the punning, Peggy wins the stare down. As if there was any doubt.

I think it’s getting to be about time to bring back Sal Romano.

Meanwhile, the old Sterling Coo gang starts reassembling, with Kenny Cosgrove rejoining the agency, bringing some big-time clients with him. Pete Campbell, always at least a little insecure, is not pleased about this, but he lays down the law to Ken, noting that he is a partner and Ken is not.

So where are we? Don is even bigger than before, having won a prestigious award to go with his big press clippings. He’s rediscovered his sexual mojo with women he doesn’t have to pay. The agency again gains big new clients. Roger mis-remembers his great coup of doing something he never did, i.e., hire the great Don Draper.

Is this still the TV programming most frequently featured in the Don Draper household?

On the other hand, Don, like a great many people with acclaim and fame thrust upon them — Hollywood, anyone? — reacts by nearly drowning himself in a sea of alcohol. He’s again blown off his kids, which again convinces me that he has them in the first place mainly because he thought he should. And he’s ripped off a nonentity for a winning pitch, without even realizing it.

Don Draper is getting to an age where all this drinking really catches up with you. We’ve seen him exercise exactly once on this show. (He did 15 push-ups, which he faked to be 100 as Betty walked into their bedroom.) He smokes like a chimney. He doesn’t eat at all healthily. Clearly, he’s heading for Roger Sterling territory if he doesn’t change. Blackout drinking, multiple heart attacks, maybe even an embarrassing episode in front of influential people. (Who can forget Don goading Roger into a long lunch of oysters and martinis before meeting with Richard Nixon’s campaign leadership, and that long hike up the stairs with the elevator conveniently “out of order?”)

How bad off is Don now with the drinking? Well, we’ll know more if he has a bad experience in an episode not set around a holiday or an awards show.

The bigger question right now, on the heels of Mad Men winning a nearly unmatched third straight Emmy Award as television’s best show, is how good is this season?

We’re nearly halfway through the season, and I’m finding it to be more entertaining than the comparable run last season. But perhaps not as consequential.

It’s easy to forget, given the spectacular final three episodes of Season 3, that the first part of the season had some heavy going. All the family set-up material had a certain degree of tedium. Betty Draper, and you have to admire January Jones for playing the role without trying little tricks to make the character more charming, turned into quite a pill in a number of episodes last season. Sidelining the Joan Holloway and Roger Sterling characters for much of the season robbed the show of much of its zest. Yet moving all the pieces into position, as a novelist would do, payed off in spectacular fashion down the stretch.

The first part of this season, especially with all the humor, is more pleasant to watch than the first part of last season, which I actually did just watch again. But until we know where we’re going this season, I’m not sure how consequential it will all turn out to be.

Can Mad Men repeat next year with a record-tying fourth straight Emmy win? Sure. The biggest threat to the streak was probably this year, with the final season of Lost. Will it repeat? We’ll have a much better idea in October.

You can check things during the day on my site, New West Notes … www.newwestnotes.com.

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Music review: Bramwell Tovey not done yet at the Hollywood Bowl

On Tuesday, the nimble Brit began his final two-week stint as the Los Angeles Philharmonic’s principal guest conductor at the Hollywood Bowl.

On Tuesday, the nimble Brit began his final two-week stint as the Los Angeles Philharmonic’s principal guest conductor at the Hollywood Bowl.


LAPD detectives identify owner of trunk containing dead babies

The Los Angeles Police Department has identified the owner of a trunk containing the remains of two babies and have made contact with that person's relatives.

LAPD detectives are expected to release further details in the case later Thursday.

The trunk, which was opened by two women clearing out an apartment's basement in the Westlake district last month, contained postcards, clothing, photographs and books — along with two leather doctor's satchels. Each of the satchels held the body of a baby, swaddled in newspaper from the 1930s.

The photographs and the clothing, including a flapper-style dress, suggest that the woman who owned the trunk was petite, with fair skin and brown hair, detectives said. Some of the postcards were sent from San Francisco and others from Canada.

Detectives have been looking for links to Janet M. Barrie, who lived at the Glen-Donald apartment building in 1948, 1950 and 1954, according to voter registration records.

She was born in Scotland in 1901 and immigrated to Canada and then the United States, according to immigration paperwork from the 1940s.

On one immigration form, Barrie wrote that she was 5 foot 1, with fair skin and brown hair. On the form, she said she had lived in Los Angeles and Chicago between 1925 and 1941. U.S. census records show that in 1930 Barrie was living in a boardinghouse near MacArthur Park and was working as a private nurse.

Her work as a nurse could be significant because detectives say there was a bundle of blank medical test forms in the trunk.

— Kate Linthicum

Leslie Goldman: Laptop Slumpers, Beware!

If you’ve spent any time in a coffee shop lately, you’ve no doubt noticed the following phenomena:
1) Despite our best public health efforts, whipped cream-capped mocha-chino-frenzies aren’t going anywhere.
2) People are waaaay too trusting with their laptops, asking complete strangers, “Will you please watch my stuff while I run to the bathroom?”
3) Self-employed worker bees are hunkered down at practically every table, hunched over their laptops like modern-day Quasimodos.

For a nearly a decade, I was one of these hunchbacks. As a full-time freelance health writer, I’d spend hours on end slumped over my Dell, BlackBerry crunched between my ear and my shoulder as I interviewed – ah, the irony – physicians, physical therapists, dietitians and more.

That all came to a crash-and-burn ending one sunny May morning two years ago, when my husband made me laugh while we got ready for our day. I bent over in hysterics, but when I stood back up, my upper back and neck seized up with a force so violent I could barely move. Then it was hysterics of another sort. I would ultimately be diagnosed with a bulging neck disk – the result of years of deplorable laptop posture combined with lifting too-heavy weights and executing some questionable yoga positions (bad Plow!) To the rescue: A painful year-long road of MRIs, physical therapy appointments, and a not insignificant number of muscle relaxants chased with dirty martinis.

If you’re like me – young, healthy, workout regularly — you never stop to wonder if poor posture could return to haunt you. It’s like fretting over sun damage in your teens: No matter how many times your mother nags you to wear sunblock, the protective veneer of young makes you feel indestructible and you reach for the oil. But the aching truth is back pain is the leading cause of disability in Americans under 45 years old, with more than 26 million of women and men between the ages of 20-64 affected.

My favorite piece of advice came from my friend Ali, a physical therapist at the Mayo Clinic (so you know she knows her stuff!): “Imagine tucking your shoulder blades into your back pocket.” Try it now. If you follow the visual, your shoulders will automatically draw down, your armpits will pull towards your tush, and your sad slump will be gone. Strangers and friends alike will compliment you on your excellent posture. And your back and neck pain will probably be instantly relieved.
Some more perfect posture tips:

-Revamp your work station. Ask your employer for an ergonomic evaluation or purchase a laptop stand and wireless keyboard (I got mine from Amazon and RadioShack, respectively.) A raised screen means you no longer need to gaze down at an unhealthy angle.
-Use a Bluetooth. Yes, they look dorky…but not half as dorky as the neck brace I had to wear after all that phone crunching mangled my cervical disks! Or work it Real Housewives-style and use speakerphone!
-Revamp your wardrobe. You can dress to strengthen your posture with garments like lucy’s Perfect Core Racerback tank: Power mesh inserts support your abs, reminding you to engage your midsection. Some people feel like Spanx and other shapewear encourage them to stand up straighter, too.
-Stop texting Twilight-sized messages. Chronic texters, step away from the Crackberry and follow this tip from Fairfax, VA-based physical therapist and American Physical Therapy Association spokesperson Patrice Winter: Open your hands as wide as possible, spreading all fingers, then close into fists. Do a few shoulder rolls or punch arms towards the sky to unlock cramped elbows and shoulders. Because cramped muscles and pain are nothing to LOL about.

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Microsoft Recruits ‘Double Rainbow Guy’ For New Ad (VIDEO)

Microsoft has gone meme.

The Redmond giant has recruited Paul “Hungry Bear” Vasquez (aka “the double rainbow guy“) of viral video fame to create a new ad for Windows Live.

Vasquez’s YouTube video of his reaction to spotting a double rainbow at Yosemite National Park went viral earlier this summer, racking up over 12 million views on YouTube and inspiring no shortage of remixes, songs, and other creations.

Following his online success, Microsoft tapped Vasquez to create an ad for Windows Live (see it below).

Microsoft explained the collaboration in a blog post: “We hooked up with Bear to learn more about him & show him how to capture a full on double rainbow with Windows Live Photo Gallery using our panorama stitch feature. It’s so intense!”

See Microsoft’s ad, and the original double rainbow video, below.


WATCH:

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